He's really upset about it. The guy he has to sack has been with the company for 30 years and started there straight from school. He was doing really well but his life seems to have fallen apart over the last 12 months or so and he now has a serious drink problem and keeps turning up drunk or not turning up at all. His wife left him last year because she couldn't cope with his behaviour. He's had 3 warnings and the company have offered to get him into some sort of therapy but he won't acknowledge he has a problem. At his last formal warning he said he was going to pull himself together because the job was the only thing he has left. He said if he lost his job he might as well chuck himself off a bridge and end it all. It's not actually OH that should be doing the deed but the guy who should be doing it isn't going to be at work tomorrow so hubby's been lumbered with the dirty work. He's gone to bed now and I can hear him tossing and turning in his sleep because he feels so bad about it.
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What an absoloutely horrible position to be in. Dont really know what to say .....................very sad that the guy has let drink take over and ruin his life. The thing is - I've heard it said that sometimes you have to reach rock bottom before realising that there's a [problem. I really hope he seeks help .........meanwhile - I really feel for your OH - no wonder he's tossing and turning. - who'd want to be the one to do that?
It's just so sad Soozy. Hubby was reading the transcript of his last warning to me and it's just tragic really. Thing is, if he did do something stupid because of this then my OH is going to feel responsible, and he really isn't. It's just horrible.
It's not your OH's responsibility Q. He has been left with a job that the person who should do it for one reason or another won't. It will be horrible for your OH, but any blame that should be felt will fall on the shoulders of those who made the decision.
Thing is, if he did do something stupid because of this then my OH is going to feel responsible, and he really isn't. It's just horrible.I can imagine how he feels but ..............he knows it's not him - it's the fat cats who dictate and will not dirty their hands. We run a small business and my OH has to do things he doesn't like sometimes but ......he'd never pass the buck - I really feel for your OH. but .............you have to do what you gotta do.
*high fives Soozy*
liverbirdMember 10 years
That's really sad. I hope it goes as well as it can. What a shame the guy didn't take the help offered
for your OH QotHT....it's not a nice feeling giving anyone the sack..let alone knowing they have problems!
Hello Queenie. If your OH works for a large company then they should provide your OH with a counsiller at their expense if need be.I have a relative who works in human resources for a very big company, and she has counciling from them if she needs it. Depending on why she has had to fire someone, depends on if she needs it.
Thanks peeps. I know he'll be ok, it's just not something he's had to do before. I don't think it would have been so bad if it had been someone else he had to let go, it's just this guys back story and circumstances that makes it so hard for him. I don't suppose it's helping that it's so near to Christmas either. I've not heard from him yet so I think he must be still going through the process.
The Devil In DiamanteMember
J hope your Hubbys ok when he gets home Queenie, it must be a very difficult thing to do, I can't see how anybody would want to be in his position...
Thanks DiD. He's just called. The bloke didn't turn up, so they've gone through the procedure without him being there. He must have known it was coming.
The Devil In DiamanteMember
He's had 3 warnings and the company have offered to get him into some sort of therapy but he won't acknowledge he has a problemPerhaps this will be the wake up call he needs ...... It's a pitty it's come to this but looking by what you have said, the company have treated him very fairly ....... I don't envy your hubby at all Queen, he has my every sympathy .... It seems almost like kicking the dog when it is already down .... but hopefully, some good may come of it eventually.
Glad your OH didn't have to do the dirty QOTHT! I do hope the bloke is alright though, after his previous comment.
It sounds like the firm has done everything by the book. Your husband should not feel guilty. Alas! There is always one extreme. Even in all my years as a Union Rep I could not win 'em all.
I would never had guessed you was one of them...... You did not comment on my reply to you about Willys statueFirst time I've been on since yesterday. I thought that me left wing credentials and general worship of Karlo were well known.
I thought that me left wing credentials and general worship of Karlo were well known.See that might mean summat to me..if I knew who Karlo was/is!...should I google him & enlighten myself ?...remember it's Friday night ..Fun night!
(I might just add I belong to usdaw......impressive or what!!)
if I knew who Karlo was/is!He was the least amusing of the Marx brothers. I'm in what is now called "Unite!" Just lost 1700 jobs in a town near here.
If the guy did not turn up for work, or was "invited" to a hearing he may have expected this, however. Did he ring in sick or is he AWOL, just in case no one has heard from him maybe a call to the police may be in order. Explain that he is vulnerable and may have self harmed.
I didn't think of that Heartache. Hubby's home so can't do much about it now. By the sounds of it though he was expecting it and he goes AWOL all the time, that's part of the problem. I hope he's ok, poor man. I don't know what's caused it but he's obviously got some demons. He really has lost everything now. Wife, kids, job, and it sounds like he could lose his home because he won't be able to afford to make payments.
^^^^ Just talkng to hubby and he says the firm were trying to contact him all day. His boss even rang his ex wife and his mum's house. No sign of him though. At leasst they tried.
i hope he's in the pub , thats his problem not your or OH please remember that
Thanks Madamski. Hopefully this will make him turn his life around.
Love the new avvy btw.
Love the new avvy btw.
thanx purleeze dont worry tooooo much about this guy, it may be sad but he brung it on hiself xx you n hubster just look forward to looking after NO 1 the angel that is wee hetty
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