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Puss

My 15 year old daughter went to town last night with her friend to go the cinema. At 10.30 we still hadn't heard from her (the film should have finished at 9.30 pm) kept trying to ring and no answer. She finally managed to get in touch at 11.00 pm saying that another friend of her's that they were meeting had disappeared. The girl had met a guy on fb two days previous, the next day she arranged to meet this 'lad' at the local rec at 9.30 pm, telling her mother that she was going with her friend to take her dog for a walk. Then last night she had arranged to meet the 'lad' at 7.00 pm but he didn't turn up, so she waited until 10.00 pm and then he showed, thats when she disapppeared with him. We picked my daughter and her friend up immediately, it was then we found about her friend missing the last bus home as well!

I tried to ring her mother but there was no reply, she finally rang my daughter at 11.45 saying her mother was picking her up. I don't know what to do, should I let her mother know what she is up to? I was frantic with worry, and I would like to be informed if it were my daughter

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CroctacusMember

Tell her mother.

The girl will probably hate you for it and will no doubt moan at your daughter for telling you but her mother should know...And also tell her that if a bloke says 7pm then rocks up at 10pm then to bin him cos he's not worth it!

9/5/092:59 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

What does your daughter say about it Pussycat?

Is she for or against you telling the girls Mum?

9/5/093:03 AM

EllsMember

Tell the mother!

I was a bit of a horrible teen...nothing my parents ever knew about, they always thought I was staying in my best mates house. But looking back now I wish someone had told them what I was up. There are so many things that I regret doing that if they had known about would never had happened. Nothing too major but just things I wish hadn't gone on.

Tell the Mother and you could be saving this girl from God knows what.

9/5/093:07 AM

SaintMember 10 years

YES - you must tell her mum

Imagine if that was 'your' daughter - wud you wan to know?

9/5/093:11 AM

Enthusiastic ContrafibularitiesMember 10 years

This is a no brainer, you must tell her mother.

FB is notorious for this kind of thing.

It's always better to be safe than sorry.

9/5/093:21 AM

Former Member

Tell the mother

9/5/093:28 AM

RexiMember 10 years

Pick up the phone PJ - do it now

9/5/093:30 AM

The Devil In DiamanteMember

Tell her Mother, this Guy could be anybody...I urge you to tell her

If anything happened to this Gril you would never forgive yourself. i know it sounds far fetched, but you never know!

9/5/093:31 AM

Rawky-RooMember 10 years

Tell tale tit
Your mother can't knit
Your Grandma can't walk without a walking stick!

......

......*runs*

In all seriousness, I think you should tell the mother.

9/5/093:41 AM

BlackpudlianMember

Consider how you would feel if the girl comes to serious harm and you kept this info to yourself - Tell the mother!!!

9/5/093:44 AM

AngelMember

I'd tell her pussycatj

the daughter may get into trouble .... but you telling her parents would only be for her own good. 15 is still very young imo ..... I'd definitely tell her parents what you know.

I would just hope other parents would do the same for me ...... good luck

9/5/093:44 AM

Mary SeacoleMember

Think, if the rolls were reversed, and it was your daughter, would you want this other girls mum to let you know what was going on, Tell the girls mum.

9/5/093:51 AM

sunny dayzMember

tell the mother pussycat. Sounds like this person this girl is with has no regard or respect for her to blatently not give a stuff about what her parents have layed down with rules etc.

He could be anyone. So worrying to think what my girls are growing up into. I dread the teens!!

9/5/093:54 AM

mummymazMember

i'd defo be telling on her mate! Forget about the dirty looks ur daughter will give you for a few days.. its worth it!!!

9/5/093:56 AM

Blizz'ardMember 10 years

Depends how old this 'lad' is, IMO.

If he's about the same age, then it's no different to meeting a lad anywhere else, really.

I think the mother would probably be asking a few questions anyway, if she's picking her up at 11.45 and she is not with any of her friends.

9/5/094:31 AM

PussMember

Thanks to everyone who replied

Just had a long convo with my daughter and she agrees that her mum should know, even tho it may harm their friendship. On the 'phone

9/5/094:35 AM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by pussycatj:
Thanks to everyone who replied Just had a long convo with my daughter and she agrees that her mum should know, even tho it may harm their friendship. On the 'phone

Good, it's definitely for the best if her mother knows. Her friend will probably be dark on your daughter for a while, but ultimately, she'll see it was the right decision

9/5/094:38 AM

charmerMember

if my mom got a call off everyone who caught me up to no good when i was young-she would have had to get a switchboard and hire staff

9/5/094:39 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by pussycatj:
Thanks to everyone who replied Just had a long convo with my daughter and she agrees that her mum should know, even tho it may harm their friendship. On the 'phone

I am so glad you were able to talk it through with daughter and got her agreement in this. Well handled Pussycat...

9/5/095:11 AM

liverbirdMember 10 years

Only just read this - what was the outcome pussycat?

9/5/091:41 PM

PussMember

quote:
Originally posted by liverbird:
Only just read this - what was the outcome pussycat?

Hi liverbird, sorry I didn't get back earlier hun, told her all I knew and she was shocked and quite upset, she didn't tell me what she was going to do, couldn't wait to get off the phone tbh! but at least my concsious is clear.

9/6/092:19 AM

queenshaksMember

quote:
Originally posted by charmer:
if my mom got a call off everyone who caught me up to no good when i was young-she would have had to get a switchboard and hire staff

Same here.

Thank goodness there were no mobiles (well there were but not many had them) in my days.

9/6/092:51 AM

PussMember

quote:
Originally posted by queenshaks:
quote:
Originally posted by charmer:
if my mom got a call off everyone who caught me up to no good when i was young-she would have had to get a switchboard and hire staff

Same here.

Thank goodness there were no mobiles (well there were but not many had them) in my days.

bet they were great big ones

9/6/092:55 AM

queenshaksMember

quote:
Originally posted by pussycatj:

bet they were great big ones

What are you trying to say madam?

Yes they were like bricks!!

9/6/092:56 AM

PussMember

well there were cups with bits of string attached for me

9/6/093:06 AM

MysTerryMember

When I 'grew up' I decided to tell my Mum about the things I'd done that I knew she wouldn't approve of...then she told me about how she used to sneak out of her bedroom window to go meet up with lads that my g/parents had forbidden her to meet.

We all go through something similar when we are young, and some of us are able to handle it, but, there is always going to be those that can't or they come up against situations that we sadly read about in the newspapers ..

I don't know if life is very much different to how things were when my Mum was young in the late '60's, early '70's, but one thing is for certain, kids will continue to push the boundaries.

Now that I have children of my own I know that I will want to know where they are at ALL times and WHO they are going to be with. I know the tricks and I'm going to watch my kids like hawks..

9/6/093:24 AM

liverbirdMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by pussycatj:
quote:
Originally posted by liverbird:
Only just read this - what was the outcome pussycat?

Hi liverbird, sorry I didn't get back earlier hun, told her all I knew and she was shocked and quite upset, she didn't tell me what she was going to do, couldn't wait to get off the phone tbh! but at least my concsious is clear.

Thanks for that. At least she didn't get stroppy with you - which could have happened!
You did the right thing

9/6/094:27 AM

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