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ANNOCA
I know several people here know me and my devoted Service Dog, Remy.

So it is with a breaking heart that I have to tell you that Remy passed away, in my arms, this afternoon, aged eleven and a half years.

She was my life, my love, my heart and soul having alerted me on several occasions, in time to avert what could have been the "end" for me.

She was my little "Earth Angel" and no matter where I went - she was with me.  She travelled all over Europe with me and to the States and New Zealand and Australia.

I am sorry to burden those who do not know me - but I felt I had to tell "someone".

Rest in peace my little one.  Sleep well.
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THANK you all from the bottom of my heart, for all your posts.

Again, I am so sorry for inflicting this on you all.  My boys all know, but, at this time, they are all out of the country, but they have all been in touch by phone and they, too are devastated.

There is always a service dog on "standby" for those who need it.  I will be provided with one from tomorrow morning.

This is only a stop gap remedy as neither the dog or I have bonded.

Remy was a special little individual that I rescued and her likes, I doubt, will ever be achieved again.

She worked, of her OWN accord, 24/7 and I always felt safe with her.

Sleep well my little one.

ANNOCA
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Dear Annoca, I don't know your story or that you had such a wonderful companion because of circumstances I also don't know about. To lose such devoted companions is devastating, so painful, and yes they are Earth Angels with their unconditional love. Amidst all the sadness you're so rightfully feeling I'm sure you will also feel gratitude she was in your life and you both shared so much together and have many happy memories that will make you smile again when the time is right for you. You loved each other, the bond cannot be broken even now it's become time for her to rest elsewhere now without earthly health conditions. Love to you both xxxx

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I have even "spoken" to her to ask if she wanted to go out to wee. I am dreading going to bed as she always snuggled up to me and "kissed" me as if to say "Don't worry - you are safe with me" She was a special little Angel.
awww Annoca that is so moving. I wish you peace, comfort and love as you mourn your special companion. Bless you and Remy
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I can never thank you ALL for the wonderful support you have given me.  Without my sons AND Remy, it is very difficult - and you all have been there for me - and that is something I will never forget.

I know that some of you don't know the "details" of my life with Remy - and I am happy to share with you if you want - but just to let you all know - the dog that I will get tomorrow (I have just looked at the time - so therefore, later today) will "look after" me but we are both "trained" to know that this is just a temperary thing.

We will not bond - as this is not what the "Stand-in" dog is for - or wants.

This dog will stay with me until another dog "presents" itself to me as a life long, bonded soul.  It has to work both ways - or it doesn't work at all.

I know I am waffling on - but to be truthful - I am dreading going to bed, because Remy was always there with a goodnight kiss and a reassurance that all was well.
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Annoca.  I am so pleased that you will have another dog with you soon.
The strength of feeling you have for your dog, the bond, fairly jumps off this page.
It is of little comfort at the moment but never forget that you gave Remy much love and a happy life.
A new dog will be lucky to come into your life.
Loving a new dog, does not mean you love Remy any less.
Love doesn't have limits.
I am so sorry you are agonizing.
We know it will be devastating when we lose our pets, but that doesn't make it any easier.
You have loving support from this forum.
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waffle all you want.... if it helps 

I agree with what Tequila said.... the bit about Remy 'sending' the right dog to you.  It happened with my parents dog.  Obviously not a service dog... but when their beloved Wilson was in his last few weeks of live (he was under a year old.. but had an aggresive tumour on his nose... he had breathed a new lease of life into my parents, and though not with us for long, no dog was loved more) I was sat out in the garden with him (I went up to see him every day from the diagnosis, til the day we had to take him for his last visit to the vets)... I talked to him and said I would look after mum & dad... and that I would try to get them to get another dog... so that their life could continue to be what he had made it... he just sat there side by side with me... and put his paw on me knee.  Twas very out of character for him.   Was a spooky... but memorable moment.

After a very very hard month with my parents following his passing I eventually found them another pup.   My mum had insisted it was another cairn.... and we found Chuffley (I hasten to add.. they named him, not me)... Cairns are not lap dogs... but this one was.   Chuffley was heaven (or Wilson) sent...  he was exactly what they needed to help them get over any feelings of betrayal, and to allow them to grieve, but also to fall in love again too.

I know to some this is all pie in the sky... but was as spiritual as I have ever been.  

I still talk to Wilson...  I loved him like my own, and his passing hurt me like nothing ever has.

I try to rationalise his very short life, by telling myself he came to the right people... and it was how it was meant to be.

It sounds to me like it was like that for Remy & you also.  You were meant for each other ....   

I love all our dogs passed.... but Wilson was the one that made me feel there was a bigger picture going on....   your Remy is another.

xxxxx
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Oh ANNOCA!
I've just read this thread and am weeping. I'm not a pet type of person at all... but your sadness about Remy leaps out of my screen. You were a lucky woman to have had that love in your life from him is for sure.
Like FMs have said, Remy would not want you to be too sad and will guide your next companion to you.
And in the meantime, thank you for telling us... because if you can't have a cuddle from Remy now, your FMs will be giving you goodnight hugs when you go to bed. And Remy will be giving a wag of his tail to you and all of us wherever he is.

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Ditty - THANK you!!!

I think Wilson and Remy were on the same wave length - hence the arrival of Chuffley. 

I always chatted away to Remy - all day, every day - right up to today and she would "chat" back to me.  However, if I ever mentioned something she DISAGREED with - she would let me know in no uncertain terms!!!

I know and understand that there are people who cannot understand this for whatever reason.

Medical Alert dogs all differ in the way they alert their people and it is the people who are trained to recognise the "alert" behaviour of the dog and not the other way round.

Remy's alert was to spin in circles and then jump up and "bat" my chest. She was 10lbs in body weight

If she disagreed with something in my "chatter" to her, she would inhale, snort and sneeze at me!!  She was SO adament - it was unbelievable - but true.

I know I am going on and on about my little angel - but to be totally honest - I cannot bear to go to bed as she was always there, waiting to give me that kiss.

Only true animal lovers will understand this - and those of you who have had the likes of Remy in your lives - even more so.

I am going to be COMPLETELY open and honest with you all now - and yes - it is because I am grieving Remy's loss but also to give others hope.

I was lucky to have a "stand in" dog to alert me before Remy came into my life.  I suffer from a severe form of diabetes and despite doing everything "by the book" can sometimes experience hypos - hypers etc.

During the time I has this temperory dog, I received a phonecall from a friend in England telling me about a  little dog that was being abused

I was very depressed during this time and told my friend that I didn;t want to know - THREE times. I have to explain here that I am an International Judge of pedigree dogs (second generation) and my ACTUAL work was with sick, injured and abused animals.

Then along came this waif - pedigree I might add - looking like NOTHING on Earth!!

On the fourth attempt, I agreed, reluctantly to take this dog from England and to try and get it a good home.  I went to Holyhead and collected this little waif and came back on the next ferry.  I took her home and because she was smelling so badly, I put her in the bath at home and gave her a shampoo and condition.  From what appeared to have been a dark brown "mutt" turned into the most wonderful, shiney jet black Petit Brabancon. I have no need to explain that this particular puppy was authorised to go to my home as a companion dog.

She was so sweet, I couldn't put her into the adoption kennels in the SPCA where I worked, so decided instead that she would stay with me as a pet.  I insisted even further that she would go into "assessment" for Medical Alert Dogs.

That was the day my little Earth Angel was born.

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Dear Annoca, having read further of your bond with Remy I totally understand what you're going through - not that I didn't associate before because I totally did having lost so many very much loved pets...I'm involved with cat rescue and have taken in many sick cats with Leukemia and Aids that I gave the best life to them that I could before they had to pass, but I still grieve for their loss of physical presence in my life but I try to console myself that they are happier and pain free now.


Despite the heartache I've been through I still take in those that are sick or homeless and unloved. I know for sure a 100% without needing anyone else's opinion that the kitties who've passed over have sent others to me to take care of because no one else will. I feel Remy will also send you the one you need, maybe not right now, but in the near future. xxxx
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Just read your words about Remy, Annoca. Like Xochi, I'm literally crying here. I'm so sorry that you've been parted. (She's still your little guardian angel though). I don't think anything on this earth gives love as totally and unconditionally as a dog and she sounds outstanding even amongst dogs. I'm glad that you had all that time and all those experiences with her; they'll live forever... and, when your new buddy arrives, I bet Remy will be giving a huge sigh of relief. Yes...sleep well, Remy honey.
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Annoca....  I thought you had gone to bed - I would have stayed up if I thought you were still about.

I too hope you got some rest.

Your story on how you and Remy got together... proves it doesn't it?  You were absolutely meant to be together... and yeah...  she sounds so very very special.

Anyone who knows me on here will know that this is my hercules heel...  losing our dogs...   and so, I am properly worried about you Annoca.   Please, post here as much as you need to, as you have read - we may all be rabble sometimes, but when the chips are down we pull out the stops.

I, and many of the others on here, are thinking of you... you're not alone.   And I am happy to read as much about Remy as you want to write...  though this whole thread is heartbreaking, your little Remy stories are inspiring xx

xxxxxxxxx
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Annoca I have just read your story how you and Remy came to be  she was so meant to be your lovely companion,it was wonderful how you travelled so far to give her a lovely home,as others have said above she will always be with you and looking out for you,your next dog wont be Remy as she is irreplaceable,but she/he will be a loving loyal caring dog and given time you will both share  a special bond God bless you
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Marge - thank you    I always think about our childhood dog when I see your avi (which I associate with your old Westies rule sig... that had 'Angus & Hamish' in it).

Chuffley is now the most spoiled "precious" dog in the world ... seriously... he really is.  He is also a bit 'blonde', and not just in his colouring.   Tis just over 4 years now since we lost Wills...  my parents are now able to look back at photos of Wills with love and without crying (I still can't look at most of them...just the two I have framed on my landing wall).

AJ acts like he's Chuff's Daddy (he is most def pack leader)...  but they adore each other....  which again, was unlikely to happen, but it did.

You know I am a nutty dog lady...   I can't help being properly upset for Annoca
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Annoca, I am so sorry you have lost your lovely companion, Remy. Whilst your story has moved me to tears, the overwhelming thing for me is the love you obviously shared with your dog. The greater the love we have for someone (whether human or animal), the greater we feel their loss. Your depth of pain at losing Remy, tells me she was a very lucky little dog to have been so loved and cherished by you.
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Ive never posted here (at livecloud anyway)  though I have read since BB in the summer, but I wanted to respond to you Annoca, because I know it's always slightly fraught to reveal such heartfelt grief when a beloved pet dies. There will always be some people who might think 'but its only an animal, cheer up', and I'm thankful that none of them saw fit to spoil Remy's tribute thread with that sentiment. I always pity them that they don't know how amazing that bond can be between a human and an animal.
Remy was lucky beyond words to have found someone who loved her so much and gave her as much devotion as she gave you, and it's comforting to think that she would have missed out on it if you both hadn't been brought together. My little cat is old now, and I dread the day I lose her, but I wouldn't exchange the grief I'll have when I lose her for never having known her.
Big hugs to you, and luck with your new friend when they come into your life.
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Annoca my heart goes out to you at this time, of the sorrow you are going through.
My baby is 17, going  blind and now deaf.I fear everyday maybe his last.
They give us so much and take so little in return,but the loss of them leaves such a gulf in our lives.
What must comfort you is that you gave Remy a wonderful life.Remy was blessed by having you as an owner.
R.I.P Remy.God Bless Annoca.
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Annoca, have just read this and my heart is breaking for you, Remy sounds like such a wonderful dog and it's true that dogs do love more devotedly than cats (although I am a mad cat lady)  Your Remy would want you to go on and find another assistance dog and knows that you will never, ever forget her.

when I was a teenager I had the most wonderful cat Scrap (PoshPaws), he was almost human the way he was with me and I loved him so much, I lost him in 1990 and it took me 10 years to have another cat, I had two kittens then and the one kitten was the double of Posh, and as she has got older, she has become more and more like him.  I often say that Posh has found his way back home to me.

I'm posting this to you in the hopes that it will bring you some comfort in the times ahead.  All my love to you xx

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Rainbow_BridgeJust this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigour; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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I will never be able to thank you all enough for all your support and hugs. I don't think I would have coped without you all.

I didn't sleep at all last night because little Remy was not in her usual place in the crook of my knees.

Today has been dreadful.  Everywhere I look, I expect to see her there - but of course she isnt.  I founf myself having a couple of conversations with her only to realise she wasn't there to hear.

Remy loved Christmas and would "help" me put up the tree and the decorations and would then spend the season sitting and admiring them.  I took the decorations down today and was thankful that she didn't have to see that as she always went under the table when that was happening and "muttered" under her breath.

I washed all her beds and blankets and bowls today but couldn't bring myself to go down to the car to get her travel bed and blanket.  She loved going out for a "walk in  the car" to go and feed HER ducks and swans every day.

I feel as though my heart has broken in two and the pain is terrible.  I can't stop myself crying.

All I wanted to do this evening was to take my meds as usual plus a little but more - go to sleep and not wake up

I am sorry that I haven't managed to get myself together better.  I opened the door to the garden at one point today and called Remy to go to potty and of course she didn't come and then I noticed that there had been another heavy snow fall and all her little footprints were gone.

I feel there is no point in getting up in the mornings as there is nothing to get up for and there is no wagging body and cheeky face waiting for me to open my eyes so she could "wash" my face.

The noise of silence is deafening - and I am not coping well at all.

Someone suggested that I bump this thread but I have no idea how to do that.

Thank you, each and everyone of you for being there for me.  I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.

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Someone suggested that I bump this thread but I have no idea how to do that.
you did Annoca - by posting in it and keeping it to the main page - where you can find it if you want to add to it 

Thank you for posting and letting us know how your day went - it wont be easy Annoca but as they say time is a great healer and each day gets a little better    keep posting - we are all here for you

that christmassy pic is just so cute - thanks for posting
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You sound so down.

You think that little (very cute) doggy worked so hard keeping you well over the years so you could go and undo it all with some tablets? I dont think you would want all her hard work to have ultimately been for nothing do you?

I'm a little worried about you now hun, are your sons coming to be with you at all?? or someone else? If not maybe you should ask one of them... i dont think you should be on your own right now hun as you say the silence is too much.

So sad to think of someone in all this pain, as others have said keep posting here so we know you are ok.
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awww hun this is such sad news i am truly sorry.
I have lost a pet and know how devastating it really is. No one can understand the bond you have with your furry friends. Its one that will last a life time.

Reading your posts I can tell that you and Remy were 100% devoted to each other. You clearly shared many happy times together and Remy assisted and helped you a lot!

I agree with a previous post that you should not be on your own during this clearly difficult time. Understandably , you are finding it hard to cope. I promise you hun that it gets easier day by day. You will never forget how wonderful your little friend is but you will find it easier to cope day by day.

Keep safe hun and keep posting on here to let us know your ok

RIP Remy , stay safe
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Annoca,I know how you feel ,I was the same when I lost my last little darling.You have so much to offer a little dog,so the sooner you get another the better you will feel.The bonding  with a new doggie will help your grief,There is no point in waiting to get another, start the ball rolling today.There is a dog out there just waiting that needs you to be it's mother.
Remy will help you choose the one I'm sure.Go for it girl.
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Annoca... you are coping.   The unable to stop crying, the not knowing what to do with yourself... its normal.   Its exactly how I was.   The wishing not to wake up cos just to 'be' hurts too much - that too is a normal feeling.

But, you know you can't fulfil that desire... cos you'd hurt your boys and others that care about you.   Also... you won't always feel this desperate,  it is very very very gradual... but soon you will have the odd hour without tears running down your face.. then that will be two hours... then you'll find you only cry three or four times a day.  etc.

There is no quick fix...  but you don't have to go through this alone... there are loads of us here who are genuinely worried about you, have felt this pain, and there is usually someone here most of the time who will talk if you need to.

Bless you, bless Remy xxxx
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there are loads of us here who are genuinely worried about you, have felt this pain, and there is usually someone here most of the time who will talk if you need to.
dont think we can say this too much at the moment Annoca
Please also keep on top of your food intake and Diabetes care no matter how sad you are feeling - I am bothered about this as I know how quick it can get out of control   you have lots of caring friends here - never feel you are alone - I know it is easy to say but most of us have been where you are at the moment
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Annoca - only just seen this - tears are rolling down my cheeks reading it.
When we lost our dog - about 14 years ago, it was heartbreaking - I still miss her, but she was not my companion to quite the extent that Remy was to you. I hope that you will eventually bond with another dog in the same way, but until then, don't feel ashamed of grieving - NO other dog will ever take her place.
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Annoca you are feeling and doing all the right things we need to grieve and crying is good for the soul,when my lovely Scottish terrier passed away I thought my world had ended the house was so quiet it was awful,I could not sleep I got out of bed one night  sat at the kitchen table and cried until I could cry no more,I got pen and paper and wrote him a letter telling him how much I loved and missed him I poured my heart out and it helped me so much doing that I still have the letter,when my family said I should get another dog I was horrified saying Ben was irreplaceable,I felt at the time I was being forced to go and see these westie puppies, I decided to have two as I thought that way I would not get too close to them as they would have each other for company I did not want to go through that pain ever again,they really helped me and of course all that not getting to close went out the window as I adore them,they never replaced Ben but they have shown me unconditional love and loyalty how could I not love them right back,I still have my moments and think of Ben and cry for him and that was eight years ago,there is a doggy somewhere waiting for you to take home love and bond with and slowly you will be able to smile again God bless you

Remy looked so lovely in her pictures
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Annoca - many of us have been where you are now. The loss a a much loved dog is almost unbearable. I still cry for my Murphy all the time. BUT like Jenstar said Remy wold never have wanted you to feel like this, she worked hard to keep you happy and healthy. And I couldn't agree more with Bojangles either. I could never replace Murphy, but we rescued Daphne from a horrible life within a month, a life which could have ended if we hadn't done so, not to mention the nine puppies that she was carrying. She changed our lives for ever by giving us purpose and happiness again. You rescued Remy once from an awful existence and now Remy would want you to do the same for another. To lose Remy at this time of year is especially sad. But this is also the busiest period for animal abandonment. I know it probably feels too soon to be thinking like this but there will be a little dog out there somewhere just waiting for a wonderful new mummy like you so you can look after each other with love and affection. Remember you have many friends on here and we all want to make sure you are happy and safe Annoca.
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the way it was with my parents was that they needed to fill the physical hole, not the emotional one (as I agreed it would have been wrong to try to replace Wills).    their house was like a mausoleum, the place screamed of aching emptiness.   I felt they needed another dog to fill that, to allow them to grieve emotionally, alongside the new dog.   

It did work, much much better than I had hoped.  The day we got chuffley made me understand the meaning of bittersweet...   proper smiles at the same time as the tears.  weird feeling.

Edited to add:  the discussions that led up to us getting Chuffley were harsh.   My mum felt I didn't  understand, I was being cold, insensitive, unfeeling.  At any other time I would have backed off... but I kept on... and it was a really really hard thing to do.    the day they got chuffley my mum gave me a hug and said "thank you, you were right, I didn't see it then.  Sorry for the things I said, you were right, thank you for persevering"
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Ditty - my mum and stepdad didn't want another dog after they lost their dog Timmy at the grand old age of 21. I convinced her (through guilt) to take one of our pups. They ended up taking two of ours and rescuing a mistreated Jack Russell pup at the same time. They are now so much happier that they have the dogs, they have more purpose and structure in their lives, and the dogs lead a life of riley too. They had two years without dogs and she always seemed so down. I'm so glad I pushed her, and she now admits that it was the best thing I could have done for her.
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