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Marguerita

Being banned for life on a forum is too harsh? I wanted to do a poll on this but did not know how ...my poll would have been..

Two strikes and your out.

Mods should turn a blind eye if things get heated.

Ban for life should mean life.

Two strikes and you are out but the maximum ban is six months.

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My view is the latter as we can all learn by our mistakes.

It would be nice if there could be amnesty and all those who have been banned and could be given a second chance there has been some nice FMS banned for life because of heated arguements in threads... I would be interested to know what others think ..Thank you

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~Lee~Member

I'm with you Marg.

1/29/115:05 AM

MargueritaMember

Cheers Lee

1/29/115:06 AM

~Lee~Member

IMO there are some indisputable WUM's and trolls whose main objective is to cause conflict ,but, by the same token there are long standing FM's who brought a lot to the forum and in this instance I do believe lifetime ban is overly harsh.

1/29/115:10 AM

Former Member

To be honest, anyone who wants to come back can find a way. So what you say makes sense to me.

1/29/115:12 AM

MargueritaMember

I agree Lee there are lots of long time members from CH4 days who have brought a lot to the forum and are sadly missed

it would be lovely to see
them given another chance...

1/29/115:14 AM

ClumsycatMember

I didnt realise anyone had been banned.... thought this forum was more relaxed than the old one.... tis a shame..... we need members on here

1/29/115:17 AM

MargueritaMember

Gypsie not everyone can find a way for those who cant it would be nice to get a second chance

1/29/115:19 AM

MargueritaMember

Clumsycat there have been bans for life and agree we do need more people on here

1/29/115:21 AM

suzybeanMember

Makes sense Marge

1/29/115:49 AM

Former Member

Reference:

Gypsie not everyone can find a way for those who cant it would be nice to get a second chance

Those people who dont know how to get back, are precisely the sort of people that have more reason to be let back legitimately ...if that makes sense.

1/29/115:51 AM

MargueritaMember

Hi Suzy

it is lovely to see you hope you are well

1/29/115:52 AM

MargueritaMember

have more reason to be let back legitimately ...if that makes sense

It does make sense

1/29/115:54 AM

Yogi19Member 10 years

Marguerita, I'd prefer a three strikes and you are out option. That leaves plenty of room for people to make a couple of mistakes.
We are all capable of saying things in the heat of the moment, but if someone is repeatedly the cause of conflict or nastiness, then I think the forum is better off without them.

1/29/115:55 AM

MargueritaMember

Hi Yogi

I see what you are saying and it does depend on what they are getting banned for,I think six months is punishment enough if they cause upset they will be banned for another six months

1/29/116:00 AM

stonksMember

I think a lifetime ban is too harsh and can't think of anything that would warrent it, after all they're only words on a screen, noone ties us to the computer and makes us read....

1/29/116:04 AM

Yogi19Member 10 years

You have a very forgiving heart Marguerita, and that's one of the many reasons I like you.

1/29/116:05 AM

zazzMember

JAIL TROLLS AND THROW AWAY THE KEYS!!!!1

1/29/116:19 AM

MargueritaMember

Yogi Thank you

1/29/116:21 AM

Tooth FairyMember

I am with you on this one Marge. I was harshly & unjustly banned for resurrecting an old thread which meant nothing to me but obviously infuriated somebody who had posted in it who had resurrected themselves and did not want reminding of their past. So I got reported for being a wind-up merchant which was not true. Those people who report you get to hide behind the cloak of anonymity. That is not justice. If people have something to say they should stand up and say it not hide behind the skirts of the mods.

1/29/116:30 AM

Former Member

I disagree with you on this one Marg. I know people I get on well with who have been banned for life on here and I think it's a sadder place without them but equally someone who is unpleasant to/about me has also been banned for life and I'm glad about that.
Unfortunately there are people who simply cannot let things lie and, if they were allowed to come back, would not have the self discipline to behave in a civilised fashion.
Btw I am not talking about fms being banned for life after a heated discussion over an emotive subject which should only be a short term ban but fms who repeatedly are personal and unpleasant and abusive to other fms.

1/29/116:49 AM

stonksMember

I think serial report button pushers should get a weeks ban to stop them reporting every little thing....

1/29/117:08 AM

MargueritaMember

REF: Stonks... I think a lifetime ban is too harsh

I agree stonks

1/29/117:08 AM

Soozy WooMember

Reference:

I think I know who you mean and I couldn't agree more.

1/29/117:12 AM

MargueritaMember

REF :Tooth Fairy I am with you on this one Marge. I was harshly & unjustly banned for resurrecting an old thread

Tooth Fairy that was harsh for just ressurrecting a thread

1/29/117:12 AM

MargueritaMember

Ref : Veggieburger

I do know what you are saying there are members who get personal and they deserved to be banned all I am saying is if they get banned for six months maximum it could be enough for them to learn from it I believe we all deserve a second chance.....

1/29/117:18 AM

BazMember VIP10 years

I think either two strikes/warnings and you are out, or two strikes/warnings and six months ban.... but being banned for one slip up is unfair. However, I also think there should be gradients within that e.g. as Yogi and Veggie say, if someone is persistently nasty, or hurtful they should be treated differently than someone who posts a rude word, or unsuitable picture.

1/29/117:20 AM

MargueritaMember

REF: Soozy I think I know who you mean and I couldn't agree more..

I dont want to make this thread about anyone in particular who has been banned ...

1/29/117:22 AM

MargueritaMember

Hi Baz

problem is were do you draw the line some are allowed back and others are not, there will always be WUM we dont have to post with them easier said than done.. I know

1/29/117:27 AM

Former Member

No I wasn't intending my post to be about a particular person Marg just illustrating that banning people works both ways.
I guess the thing is that one persons funny, pithy, thought provoking poster is anothers nasty, provocative WUM poster.
It's easy to avoid someone who winds you up in their own threads - just don't go into a thread they've created if they annoy you. The problem becomes more difficult if they are in someone elses thread where you may be posting. Btw that is not aimed at any fm past or present just an observation on avoiding situations

1/29/117:54 AM

MargueritaMember

Veggiburger my post was for Soozy as she said she knew who you meant.. I could not see in your post that you meant any particular person so I was surprised she said that, I did not want the thread to get personal about anyone who has been banned that is why I quoted Soozy....

1/29/118:01 AM

Garage JoeMember

Has someone been banned?

1/29/118:10 AM

Former Member

Dunno Joe, I thought it was just a general 'is a lifetime ban fair' question so that is how I posted in it.

1/29/118:12 AM

MargueritaMember

I have read your post again Veggieburger I now see were Soozy was coming from.. my apologies to Soozy

Veggieburger I also know you would not mention names

1/29/118:13 AM

Former Member

No worries Marg. In fairness to Soozy, she didn't actually mention anyone so no harm done. I also think it's not very fair to mention by name someone who has been banned and therefore doesn't have the right of reply to any comments made.

1/29/118:14 AM

MargueritaMember

Joe it was meant to be a poll but I did not know how to do it.. the thread speaks for its self really ... should members be banned for life ...

1/29/118:17 AM

Garage JoeMember

Sorry! I just dropped in out of nowhere, as it were.

1/29/118:20 AM

MargueritaMember

someone who has been banned and therefore doesn't have the right of reply to any comments made.

Exactly how I see it too and yes Soozy did not mention anyones name just the fact she said she thought she knew who you were talking about, I said I did not want it to be made about anyone in particular who was banned

1/29/118:25 AM

Soozy WooMember

Sorry if I offended.

I just think it's not a question of three strikes etc. etc. - it's all about the particular incident. Some people snap and overstep the mark and could kick themselves - little slips are forgiveable and there should be no outright bans.

Sometimes it's premeditated and totally out of order - then I think a lifelong ban is justifiable.

As I say it depends on the severity and intent of the 'crime' committed IMO. Every case is different.

1/29/118:58 AM

MoonbeamsMember

I think 3 strikes and you're out for good is fair for all.

The mods don't ban people for nothing. I think if it's a personal attack then ban, them's the rules. 1st ban for a week second ban a month and third and final and you're a goner.

1/29/119:00 AM

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