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Crunchy Nuts

Is anyone else a really bad loser?

I don't want to be a bad loser, well ideally I don't want to lose at all, but when I lose it sends a huge burst of high energy through me that makes me want to kick the s*** out of anyone within sight of me. It's cost me big style in the past, and cost me again this morning as I was sent off because of it. I thought I'd grow out of it, but obviously I haven't.

And it's not just when im playing in a team that loses, it's also when a team that I support loses. Like during the last hour and a half I've had the same feeling. I can hardly type because my arms just want to smash the computer to pieces, but im controlling it. But the energy is inside, i can feel it.

It's like a really over the top level of frustration.

Anyone else get this? Or am I just a headcase?

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Rawky-RooMember 10 years

I generally can't stand bad losers. Sounds like you need some anger management.

Don't get me wrong, I like winning and I'm very competitive but I've always been taught that you can't win em all.

10/16/108:42 AM

Crunchy NutsMember

i'd make myself physically sick to win. I absolutely hate losing, it's the worst feeling in the world.

10/16/108:43 AM

Former Member

Don't like bad tempered petulance

Control

10/16/108:44 AM

Former Member

Whilst I commend your honesty this cannot be a happy or healthy way to be.

10/16/108:45 AM

slimfernMember VIP

It's a far better person that knows how to lose graciously Crunchy

Do you not like to see others win ?

10/16/108:50 AM

Former Member

At least you recognise it though Crunchy which is something to work on

10/16/108:55 AM

Crunchy NutsMember

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Do you not like to see others win ?

10/16/108:59 AM

CroctacusMember

I don't like losing either. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with having a winning mentality.

10/16/109:06 AM

slimfernMember VIP

Were you the same as a boy Crunchy ?
Siblings?

10/16/109:10 AM

Crunchy NutsMember

I've always been like it, even in kids football. I thought I'd grow out of it as I got old, but at 24 I'm still the same.

It's like a split personality because in day to day life I don't get wound up easily, I can stay calm about situations, I'm never violent or feel like I'm going to be violent (unless it's something serious like if I see someone torturing a puppy or something), but when it comes to sport, something inside me flips.

10/16/109:14 AM

slimfernMember VIP

Ever thought about taking up a different pastime ? Like stamp collecting !

In all seriouness Crunchy, you need to be able to control your anger! there is plenty of help to be found out there...find the one that fits you & good luck!

10/16/109:23 AM

Karma_Member

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but when I lose it sends a huge burst of high energy through me that makes me want to kick the s*** out of anyone within sight of me.

Not the best way to do it, you'll end up with an ASBO (or a couple of years inside) . Best to channel that adrenalin in a positive way and use it to your advantage. Learn from where you went wrong and improve.

Nowt wrong with a winning mentality, it's just drive and ambition to excel in what you do.

10/16/109:45 AM

Yogi19Member 10 years

I'm not a bad loser, but I am a happy winner - I do a little dance.

10/16/109:59 AM

BazMember VIP10 years

I'm not a bad loser.... mainly cos I have had plenty of practice

10/16/1010:04 AM

Former Member

Reference: Croc

I don't like losing either. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with having a winning mentality

Quite right Croc. Show me a good loser and I'll show you a loser as the saying goes.
I don't mind losing myself (mainly coz I'm a bit of a loser!) but I hate hate hate it when my team or someone I'm supporting loses

10/16/1010:27 AM

Former Member

I am an appalling winner - I apologise to all and sundry and tell them it was just good luck.

10/16/1010:38 AM

DING DONG! THE WITCH IS DEAD.Member

If you don't lose you are not pushing yourself, so you should accept loss as part of striving to be better.

10/16/101:39 PM

Rawky-RooMember 10 years

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I absolutely hate losing, it's the worst feeling in the world.

I'm pretty sure there are other 'worst' feelings then at losing a game/competition.

10/16/102:01 PM

stonksMember

Can't be arsed, I'd rather chill....

10/16/102:04 PM

Former Member

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Can't be arsed, I'd rather chill...

Chill or be chilled.

10/16/102:05 PM

slimfernMember VIP

hahaha!! Issy

Am the same as you Stonx..after all tis the joinin in that counts innit

10/16/102:09 PM

CroctacusMember

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Quite right Croc. Show me a good loser and I'll show you a loser as the saying goes.

Thats the one!

I can take losing if its fair and square (sort of) but I really begrudge it if I feel i've not given as good an account of myself as i could,

10/16/102:09 PM

CagneyMember

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I'm pretty sure there are other 'worst' feelings then at losing a game/competition.

There most certainly are

10/16/102:13 PM

stonksMember

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Chill or be chilled.

Dunno....

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Am the same as you Stonx..after all tis the joinin in that counts innit

There's no fun in stressin, I've got trophies for different things, do I have them on show? NO, they're in the loft with the rest of the crap I've picked up over the years....

10/16/102:48 PM

slimfernMember VIP

Am so old I forgets what I won..what's more I dunt chuffin care

10/16/103:15 PM

CagneyMember

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i'd make myself physically sick to win. I absolutely hate losing, it's the worst feeling in the world.

With that attitude I'd say you're in for a LOT of disappointment in your life

10/16/103:22 PM

stonksMember

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Am so old I forgets what I won..what's more I dunt chuffin care

Same here Slim, I can't even be bothered winning an arguement these days....

10/16/103:31 PM

stonksMember

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With that attitude I'd say you're in for a LOT of disappointment in your life

ir bad health....

10/16/103:31 PM

Crunchy NutsMember

Karma, I haven't actually kicked the s*** out of anyone on a football pitch, it just makes me feel like it. I have however really went in hard on someone out of frustration and adrenalin. My sending off this morning was just stupid, but I was right.

10/16/104:39 PM

stonksMember

Why do you think there's a no sex rule for profesionals, cos it takes the aggression out of them..you need sex or masturbation, then you will chill....

10/16/105:13 PM

Crunchy NutsMember

I'm exactly the same even when I've had sex the night before a defeat.

10/16/106:14 PM

Karma_Member

With yourself?

10/16/107:13 PM

Crunchy NutsMember

With myself what?

10/16/108:05 PM

Karma_Member

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I'm exactly the same even when I've had sex the night before

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With yourself?

10/16/109:02 PM

Former Member

Crunchy - I have to apologise,

I honestly thought you were about 18-19 years old - not 24.

10/17/1012:34 AM

MargueritaMember

Many years ago I use to play darts I was in the semi final of the ladies singles I played really well and was down to my double way ahead of the other lady it was my favourite double, I suppose I got a bit over confident anyway I could not get that double for love nor money and got beat

I dont know if I was a bad loser that night or just annoyed with myself but that is the only time that springs to mind

10/17/101:17 AM

slimfernMember VIP

That is really annoying Margy, I've been there!.....but still managed to enjoy the nibbles afterwards

10/17/101:40 AM

QuimperMember

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Why do you think there's a no sex rule for profesionals, cos it takes the aggression out of them..you need sex or masturbation, then you will chill....

Wise words

10/17/102:47 AM

stonksMember

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I honestly thought you were about 18-19 years old - not 24.

Yes but he's been 24 for years....

10/17/105:12 AM

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