GJ, rest assured that you have done the right thing for your Mum. Someone I know at church was trying to work out how he could look after his mother who needed care himself without causing himself harm through stress. I talked with him and said that to accept that she needed to go into a care home was not a sign of failure but a sign of love in accepting that she would be looked after by professionals. What good would it do to her if he became ill trying to look after her. She did go into a home and some time later he thanked me for having put his mind and conscience at rest.