At least that's something 

 

I feel I've got to mention something very positive about your daughter. She's at 6 form. She obviously wants to make something of herself so I doubt she would willfully destroy that. Hand on heart, I never understood why my mother clucked around me, I felt it was my right to do as I liked and I was fearless as any other teenager. I think in about a year's time, she will be sticking to the brief and understand your anxiety much better.

I agree Cologne  

 

 

and me 

Yay got to say  she phoned and Ive just picked her up....so just for tonight I know she is safe

thanks to everyone who has talked to me tonight

 

 Glad all is ok [for now] Amythist

Good news. I know my Mum has to worry about me, her grandchild, and great grandchildren. We worry about our son, and grandchildren. M'son worries about his kids, and so it goes on.........

We are here when ever you need to talk x

Thanks and without you all I would have been inn a right state

The best feeling in the world.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww Amythist

 

I'm a real bossy cow and laid the law down to my three (fortunately I had a husband to back me up) - they had a fair bit of freedom but I always insisted that they let me know where they were - who they were with and what time to expect them home etc. They always sort of understood that it wasn't a power thing - simply that I worried.

 

I know this sounds lame but - could you not get a nice mother/daughter card and just write down how you feel? Just explain that you're simply worried not wanting to control but needing to know she's safe.

 

It might not work, I don't know your relationship with her but ...........have a big (((((((hug))))))) anyway.

I like that idea Soozy, it would have left me in tears if my Mum had taken the time to write down her thoughts and feelings on my behaviour at that age because even though I was being a bit of a twat I still had a good enough relationship with my Mum and wouldn't have wanted to upset her.

 

Amythist - your rules or she's out

 

It has to be

Yeah, cos she's really gonna stop worrying about her then eh?   

Tough love

thank god there aren't many parents like you or there would be one heck of a lot of teenagers who push the boundaries on the street.

Thank you x

Ok 10 years ago I was 17 and was a bit like this. Now I am a very mature, responsible  individual I can now use all my experiences to help others.

 

- Don't keep having a pop at her about it and telling her to report to you because that will make her even less likely to tell you. She thinks she's this big grown up adult now she's 17, she doesn't need to tell her mammy where she is. (a 17yr olds mindset)

- If you want her to do something, make her think you want her to do the opposite. When I was 17, if someone told me to do something, I would go out of my way to either not do it or do the opposite. (I still am a bit like that to be fair). Maybe try a bit of reverse psychology.

- Try and get intel from her friends. Set up a fake facebook account, add some of her friends. Gradually expand your intelligence network.

- Put a tracking device on her phone without her knowing 

Just a thought ..........................I think I'd shock her and let her know how it feels.

 

If you feel you can do it - just take off somewhere overnight and don't tell her where you're going or when you'll be back. Just be out one day when she gets in expecting you to be there.